Man with Hugh Penis Stopped at Airport

Frustrated with What You Are Born With

Do you ever feel frustrated with whatever you are born with,  your physical attributes, deficiencies or sometimes the excessive side of it.   I read this news  article yesterday from my local Star Newspaper about a man with hugh penis being stopped at airport,  so the heading of the article goes.

It must be embarrassing and frustrating experience but apparently, it was not the first time the Jonah Falcon encountered the unpleasant experience.   Jonah Falcon, 41 has an organ which is 9.5 inches long when flaccid and 13 inches erect, according to the Rolling Stone magazine as quoted.   Jonah was returning to New York from San Francisco on July 9 and was stopped by airport officials when they saw a bulge hanging down over his left upper thigh.   “They wanted to know if I had something in my pockets, and when I said no, they asked if I had some sort of growth.” Jonah said.  Jonah told them it was his penis, and they checked around his crotch, although not too closely.  He was delayed for 5 minutes.  It must have been embarrassing.

There are many people born with lots of deformities, sometime beyond our imaginations.  The above case is one.  When I read this, it brought back memories of my youngest daughter born with serious deformities that I recalled  that at that very moment, nothing  matters but the very life of the baby is more important.  I had to deal with the situation for 10 over years, accepting whatever physically and  mental defects and to live to be happy with the situation.   

So if you are one who happened to be the unfortunate one, born short of perfection,  do not begrudge and frustrated with what you are short off,   learn to be happy and accepting what you given to you.  An inspiring case is  Live Life  , you can read the detail by checking this out.

So be happy, and never be always complaining and frustrated about live.

Robin Gibb of Bee Gees Demise

Passing of my favorite  – Robin Gibb of the Legendary Bee Gees

Today,  the world over  is mourning the loss of yet another legendary singer who brought us so many sweet music and songs of the yesteryear.   Robin passed away at the age of 62 losing a battle with the cancer of colon and liver.  Bee Gee’s songs are favorites to many, and one of my favorite “Don’t forget to remember” probably rings familiar to many who were teenagers of the 70s,  the favorite pop group that fills the dance floor and disco tech  with the forever sounds of the Bee Gees disco beat.  The Trio had turned disco into a worldwide phenomenon with their disco beat and music, especially disco soundtrack Saturday Night Fever in 1977.

Fans flooded  the Twitter over passing of disco music legend headlines a local tabloid.  It is a sad year for musical legends,  with the recent passing of disco legend Donna Summer’s passing just last week.  The Bee Gees had  their 1^st hit in 1963 with The Battle of the Blue and Grey.

Some years back,  Robin’s  brother  Maurice had died of similar illness in 2003 and Andy in 1988.  Reading in the news about what Robin said to the Tabloid,  I can imagine what goes on in Robin’s  mind,  as it brought back some memories to myself about some frustrations that probably lingers on his mind during his later days.  

He said “I sometimes wonder if all the tragedies my families has suffered – like Andy and Maurice dying so young  and everything that’s happened to me  recently – is a kind of karmic price we are paying for all the fame and fortune we’ve had.”     Such are the frustration that people harbor when in sufferings,  in hardship or in sickness.   I am sure the feelings of why , why me , why does this has to happen to me, keep flashing across his mind.

Some years back,  I was in similar situation where  within my family under one roof,  my family and I had to endure this pain and suffering,   of seeing and attending to 2 cases of chronic illness till the end.  My youngest daughter was born  with a extreme case of spinal bifida, resulting in my daughter bed-ridden, unable to live a normal life.  Several  years of in and out of hospital is like a chore.  As the doctor puts it plainly, it will be  like providing and caring for her with all the love we best can and waiting just for the final day to come. Along with this suddenly, my mother was diagnosed with stomach cancer.  A year of treatment and operations,  these 2 added tremendous strains to the family.

When the world collapse in front of you, how would you face it?  In the same manner,  my mind is full of frustration, starting to blame everything around.    Until when I came across a inspirations  on strengthening our faith in life that there were so many others in more worst off situation, yet can overcome to emerge victorious in life.

Only in faith that my wife and I find the solace and strength to thread/shoulder  on, to give the children and family what is best.   Probably like Robin’s mind,  it took some time and some soul searching before I accepted that reality and facts,  that It is indeed the karmic seeds that I  must have sowed in my previous life.   It took a long long time to get past the denial stage, to finally accept the reality.  Only when I accepted the reality, life takes on a new and different meaning. That everything we hold on to are only transient in nature,   and that during our lifetime,  we must do all the best that we can to improve the lot of ourselves as well as those others around us.  Only through good deeds and actions, we can sow the seeds for our future.   And hopefully bring this with us to the next lifetime with positive karmic manifestation. 

So in life,  I have to take life as it comes,  suffer what is there to suffer and enjoy what is there to enjoy.   Life is like the 4 seasons,  when it comes to extreme cold in the winter,  we must be well prepared and persevere and in no time,  Spring time will come without fail.  So,  no matter how bad the situation is,  always know  better things will follow. 

And in life, it is not about the  fateful event  that happened to you that matters. More importantly, it is how you get on and out of it that matters most.   That is standing up again after you have fallen.  Let’s embrace life with this philosophy.

Dedicated to the legendary Robin Hugh Gibb – Rest in Peace.

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Selling Kidney for iphone

Frustration : Selling your kidney to buy iphone and ipad


What can we do if we are born into a world of sufferings, a world where everything is not right, where making a living is so though.

Today, I came across the news in World News section of the Star that reportedly in Changsha, China, a guy who finds life so tough that he has to sell part of his organ to indulge in the modern amenities – to get an iphone and an ipad.

Penniless and frustrated over gambling debts, he tried to get people to look for buyer for his kidney.5 persons including a surgeon were charged with intentional injury in Chenzhou city in Hunan province.

The defendant had asked another to look for donors through online chat rooms, and then lease an operating room from a local hospital urology department.

The surgeon from a provincial hospital conducted the kidney transplant from the 17 year old high school student to a recipient in April last year. The surgeon received about 220,00 yuan for the operation and he gave 22,000 yuan to the student, and shared the rest with few other medical staff involved in the transplant.

The student now suffers from renal insufficiency and his condition is deteriorating.

So pitiful for this poor boy? But why would this boy do such things. It is something that you and I will not understand, because for some of us, we live world apart from him, driven by different standards and concepts through our own eyes, brought on by our own education, and environment.



This case goes to show that given extreme situation, human will make sacrifices that one cannot imagine. Such situation as I recalled, also happened in India where the majority of the people lives in extreme poverty.

Under such circumstances, the expectations and perceptions we place around us is very much different. Where it seems sub-standard or unacceptable to many others, it would already be considered a luxury in the eyes of this very people.

Let’s hope that we would not be placed in such situation and be so quick as to be judge of the circumstances.

Posted by : Ivan

The Apple Foxconn Controversy

Justice is done - is this so?

Starbiz 2nd April had a column about a Report from Boao, China as follows;

Foxconn Technology Group in recent report said that it will keep increasing workers salaries in China and cutting work hours according to press statement.

This came about after the company came under fire for poor working conditions for employees making App;le iPhones and iPads.

Apple and Foxconn agreed last week to tackle violations of conditions among the 1.2 million workers assembling iPhones and iPads in a landmark decision that could change the way Western companies do business in China.

According to another Reuters report,
“Foxconn said it would reduce working hours to 49 hours per week, including overtime, while keeping total compensation for workers at its current level. The FLA audit had found that during peak production times, workers in the three factories put in more than 60 hours per week on average.

To compensate for the reduced hours, Foxconn will hire tens of thousands of additional workers. It also said it would build more housing and canteens to accommodate that influx.
Apple CEO Tim Cook, who company critics hoped would usher in a more open, transparent era at Apple after he took over from the late Steve Jobs last year, has shown a willingness to tackle the global criticism head-on.”

The Foxconn Story


When I first heard about this, I checked out this Change.org web-site to try to put in my feeling about this, but could not find the way to lodge my feedback apart from having to sign for the petition. Today, uner 4th April, I see their Headline “How We Won”
Absolutely incredible. After more than a quarter million Apple customers from around the world united their voices and took a stand against one of the most profitable corporations in the world, we've won.
Following investigations by the Fair Labor Association, Apple has vowed to sharply curtail working hours to 49 hours per week and significantly increase wages inside their Chinese plants. The New York Times reports that: "the impact of Foxconn’s hour and wage reforms could signal a new, wide-reaching change in working conditions throughout China."
So thank you to everyone who signed the petition. It just goes to show that together, we can make real change.
Personally, I am not too sure whether this is fair pressure. Being an Asian myself, we are raised to work hard and put in long hours, yet if the working conditions are alright, we are still happy. Now that the West have managed to impose its own work standard on China, this may have long term ramifications.

So you think you understand the Chinese. China has its own problem, a different kind of problem that needs different solution. And you think you can solve China's problem through the Western eyes, drawing on western standards and western concepts.
I suggest you spend some time to listen to this TED Talk : Martin Jacques on Understanding the Rise of China.


Yes, wide-reaching change no doubt, Cost for sure will go up, at the expense of reduce profit. In the longer terms, this will be translated to other cost-cutting measures, or maybe making them less competitive and eventual relocation to other countries. In China, and for that matters many Asian countries, to be employed and earning a living is already a blessing, with so many mouth to feed. It is really not so much the longer hours or even some perceived setbacks that matters to these country folks. In this economies, it is more important to have more hands employed and more mouths fed at may be less favorable terms.

When factories become less competitive, and business goes somewhere else and more workers unable to find job, who then is at the losing end. One cannot impose one’s standard upon others without empathizing the others position.

Wait till the factory starts to close down because Apple moves somewhere else.


When the workers realizes that at the end, they are the ones losing out, people will become more frustrated. So the next time, we want to support a Good Cause, we have to think hard. After all, I am certain that most who supported the cause have not even step foot on China soil.

Frustrations on the Road

Road Rage on the Road

It is becoming more and more frequent that we encounter road rage reporting when we look at our newspapers headlines today. Traffic is getting worst and more chaotic with reports of ever increasing vehicle sales year on year.

What we see today is that people are taking their cars more to the road than taking public transport. Many reasons contributed to this, the poor state of affairs of the public transport systems, the inadequate planning and provision of public transports as new surburb, towns and cities are emerging.

Traffic jams are inadvertent, and this is not much help by the worsening attitude of the drivers on the road today. Today, we see many blatant disregard of the law, and I just hope the authorities can put all their heads together to work with the all the relevant authority to clamp on this. I still couldn't help reminiscing those moments when I rented a car at a foreign countries where the traffic was not so heavy, where it is the driver have the courtesy to stop and let the pedestrian cross.

How I hope that the school system can incorporate part of this road courtesy campaign as part of the curriculum. Simple concept of good road manners to inculcate from young is important;

a) Never hog a lane. This is probably one of the worst habits on the road that can drives people nut, and probably one big causes of big fights on the road. How stupid is it that one keeps hogging the road, and not switch to inner lane to make way. Some smart Alec argue that since he is driving within speed limit, it is fine. Need to knock some sense into such heads.

b) Give in to others to switch into your lane, especially those that have their indicator light turned on. Today's road traffic is chaotic, and many places, we see multiple lanes squeezing into few. In many instances, it is such situation that force the driver to come into your lane. How frequent I witness that the driver would not bulge but keeping close to prevent the car from coming in. In my years of driving, I have witness a case when both parties tried to move, and ended up scratching the incoming car. What happened next was 2 young men got down the car, brandishing a stick to hit the other car driver. Road bully as the newspaper would report such thing. If you do not want this to happen to you, be courteous.

c) Swerving abruptly into another lane is one act that will make the other driver very angry. This will definitely get the driver screaming and cursing the incoming car. A worst scenario is that the driver behind will then flashes the light and tail gate the car to show his displeasure.

d) Tail gating is sure one act that is very dangerous and many a times get both drivers into arguments and fights. While most driver will switch lane to give in, the younger ones may then try to slow down, to block the cars behind. I have personally witness again another incident where both the drivers came out and fight it over. Worst of all, I can see the wife and kid were in one of the car. What madness?

e) Enjoy the radio and the air-condition and ride, while you are stuck in the jam. Many of my friends told me that they will be very stress up during the morning and evening traffic jam. And this traffic jam also gets onto my wife's nerve. But for me, I would always say to them that working is tough and there isn't much time that I can sit back, relax and listen to the music, and with the other half. How frequent do we have the time to really sit down and have long talk. It is during such long hours of traffic jam that we can make use of to enjoy the music and to engage in your talk with the other half. It will actuall make a lot of goodness out of this so called traffic nightmare, that you are stuck with however in your car.

So the next time, you are stuck in the middle of this massive traffic jam, give this a Try, and see how you like it.

Posted by: Ivan

Ills & Frustration of Social Networking

Advancement of telecommunication, computing and handheld devices have never made life so convenient and sometimes taken for granted. Along with it, the advent of the social networking and community have never made and foster friendship, constant keeping in contact of the events and happenings so quickly.

Many sites such as Twitter, Facebook, Myspace, Bebo etc as such have grown exponentially as social habits and culture have now gravitated towards this phenomena of a whole new virtual world. While this brings about many good, it has also brought about much frustrations and social ills.

If not handle properly, this new craze is going to become increasingly more powerful and capable of keeping track and tab of all our doings and life. Some of the social ills well known includes;

- Excessive use leading towards some form of addiction towards the new culture that people are oblivious towards their own family and surrounding
- The new phenomena is creating a new form of communication media and language eg.texting , sms giving rise to its own unique language. This is now known to have cause many students to fare badly in their language

Already, this morning I was reading in the news that Facebook had exposed one man’s other wife as its headline. Apparently, this happened in Seattle where Facebooks’s automatic efforts to connect users through “friends” they may know each other have led two women there to find out they were married to the same man at the same time. God knows what this can lead to in future.

Just only last week, I remember reading in the newspaper that a husband divorced his wife barely 2 weeks of marriage when the new wife’s habit of spending so much time on the social networking got to the husband nerve. Unable to accept the neglect from his newly wedded wife, he had file for divorce.

It is not surprising that many of today’s technologies were meant to help and make our lives better. Despite so, we can see so many people are overwhelmed by such inventions. In the event, they ended up virtually becoming the slave in this new world order..

Take the case of a simple mobile phone. One can remember the days when telecommunication was so difficult when one is on the move. Today, we see almost 10 in 10 person carrying the mobile device. Instead of enabling the person’s life and others better, people have forgotten the meaning of convenience that these inventions bring. They have lost track of the situation when to use this. They do not switch them off or turn to silent mode when they go to theater, or go into meeting halls. Instead they let this phone rings and talk interrupting others. We can see so many of such inconsiderate person in our day to day interactions. What a frustrations all these inventions have brought upon us.

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Stress Too Far

Bad Days at Work

We all have bad days, whether at home or at work. If we think about it, we spend almost all the time (or at least critical time) at work, and so how we manage ourselves is important.

Coping with all the stress and pressure from work is tough, which is why periodical breaks and holidays aware from office is essential for the person to recharge and re-energise. Modern days office expectations and demands are unlike the past, akin to a battle field at worst, with seemingly good colleagues scheming against other.

That probably accounts for many cases that we read about in the News about people just losing sanity and control, many cases resulting in unwarranted destruction of properties and innocent lives. The more recent highlighted case being the Fort Hood massacre where a US Major Nidal
Malik Hasan went on a shooting spree that killed 13 people at an army base. Worst still, the shooter is himself an army psychiatrist and now remains to be seen whether there is more to this.

At this same time, Jason Rodriguez went on a shooting spree that killed one and wounded five at the firm that fired him for not having money.

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I recently received recently a video clip from an Ex - colleague. It's like a silent movie of the Charlie Chaplin day, but I do hope you watch this, and not let it happens to you. It's title Bad Day At Work.. (BaddayatWork).


I can imagine how the stress must have built up over time, waiting for it to explode. If you look at the video clip, it must be something that the supervisor that must have said that trigger the man to snap. It looks like he is uncontrollable.

Over the years of working, I am aware of the situation. It is important that we recognise that we are stress up and therefore need to be aware to avoid this happening to us. But how ? as we see above that even an army psychiatrist can succumb to the same fate.

Let's us take the first step to recognise that stress do exist and affecting us, and let us start talking about it with our close one and see how best to control and minimise it. I have just recently taken a bold step, to resign from my job of 11 years, so called early retirement. But today, I'm without the job, without the stress, but still there are a new host of other issues that is boggling my mind.

Nevertheless, I am hoping for the best, and thinking forward to be better that where I left behind.

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Ivan

20 80 Rule Why did I get married

Frustrations, frustrations, frustrations from all angles. Feeling frustrated with your spouse.

Pareto's principle 80 20 rule, except that trying to apply it to our lives, living it out with our spouse. I can imagine your frustration. I have mine too, who hasn't got any. Is there one around that hasn't any? Come on and be honest.

Do Not look back and ask why, Look Forward and ask Why Not - seems a pretty good quote to live by. But can we?

Interesting quote from a move "Why did I get married?".
In most cases, especially n relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it is not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not. Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring, more thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: I broke my arm yesterday, hahahahaha..

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait, that's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

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That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

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But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I am not just talking about marriage. I am talking about life! about your jobs, about your friends, about your children, about your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? They have go more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they have got personal videos!

I guarantee you will be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class - because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message? If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
Conclusion : You will never get 100% perfect in Life of your needs and wants!

So if you are feeling real frustrated, rethink and reflect again, look around you and be thankful for whatever you have. Appreciate those things around you, the people and the relationship around you.

Like what we learn from small, a bird in hand is better than 2 in the bushes.

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Ivan

Queue at cashing out at ATM

Latest ATM Procedure

Ever get into a queue, trying to cash out from your ATM and wait and wait and wait to move on, and to find out that it is the lady at the front that is slowing things down. Ever wonder why? It’s time that we learned of the women’s routine, the so-called bad habits that they unknowingly behave that cause the world around them to slow down. Maybe, I should say that it is not only the women that has this problem, to be fair, the man has it too. I am sure you would have encounter similar frustrations, having to queue and wait over someone else, taking their own sweet time, ignoring that there are others being held back. Such is the waste of time, productivity. I am sure this applies to any of us.

Take the scenario of you lining up to move up to the ATM machines to make your withdrawal and finding yourself behind some ladies. How long the queue will be, and how much of time is lost.

Well at least, this following joke and observation tells a lot of a new ATM Withdrawal Procedure comes out of a study as follows;

New ATM Withdrawal Procedure

A sign n the Bank Lobby reads, “Please note that that this bank is installing new Drive-through teller machines enabling customers to withdraw cash without leaving their vehicles. Customers using this new facility are requested to use the procedures outlined below when accessing their accounts. After months of careful research, MALE & FEMALE procedures have been developed. Please follow the appropriate signs for your gender"

MALE PROCEDURE

1. Drive up to the cash machine
2. Put down your car window
3. Insert card into machine and enter PIN
4. Enter amount of cash required and withdraw
5. Retrieve card, cash and receipt
6. Drive-off
7.
FEMALE PROCEDURE

1 Drive up to the cash machine
2 Reverse and back up the required amount to align car window
with the machine
3 Set parking brake, put the window down
4. Find handbag, remove all contents on to passenger seat to locate card.
5. Tell person on cell phone you will call them back and hang up
6. Attempt to insert card
7. Open car door to allow easier access to machine due to its
excessive distance from the car.
8. Insert Card
9. Re-insert card the right way
10. Dig through handbag to find diary with your PIN written on the
inside back page.
11 Enter PIN
12 Press cancel and re-enter correct PIN
13. Enter amount of cash required
14. Check makeup, in rear view mirror
15. Retrieve cash and receipt
16. Empty handbag again to locate wallet and place cash inside
17. Write debit amount – in check register and place receipt in
back of checkbook.
18. Re-check wakeup
19. Drive forward 2 feet
20. Reverse back to cash machine
21 Retrieve card
22. Re-empty handbag, locate cardholder, and pace card into the
slot provided
23. Give dirty look to irate male driver waiting behind you
24. Restart stalled engine and pull-off
25 Redial person on cell phone
26. Drive for 2 to 3 miles
27. Release parking brake

End of Procedure

Well, while I may agree that there are some man who does adopt the Female procedure, by and large, the majority of the ladies do fall under this category. It may amaze you that the next time round you follow behind someone queuing for an ATM or for that matter queuing up for anything else, to observe and see the number of steps that are really unnecessary, and are holding up the rest behind the line.

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Ivan

Sex Next Door

Losing sleep over Sex...Yes, someone is naughty next door.

Imagine, being awaken by some screaming, moaning and groaning at the odd hours of the night or morning, keeping you from sleeping and enjoying your slumber. Because of Sex Next Door, Caroline Cartwright is causing her neighbours to lose their sleep.

For some people, this maybe a welcome disturbance. But not to the neighbours of this Caroline Cartwright and her husband Steve, who have been having sleepness nights for 2 years. What a frustration that must have driven the neighbours to bring the matter to court. Just fancy their frustration over this couple lovemaking routine.

It was reported in the New Sunday Times today, that an Englishwomen was fined a total of Sterling Pound 500 by the court.

In London, reportedly a woman has been given a court order banning her from making too much noise when having sex with her husband.

Caroline Cartwright was found guilty of breaching a noise abatement notice served on her after 25 complaints to police.

The 47 year old denied the latest 5 charges but was found guilty after Sunderland magistrates listened to recordings of her loud lovemaking with husband Steve.

The couple's partially deaf neighbour Margery Ball, said she had not had a decent night's sleep in 2 years because of the noise made by the couple. As well as being given a noise abatement notice, Caroline was yesterday fined Sterling Pound 200 with 300 costs. She was taken to court after Environmental Health officers placed recording equipment in the flat next door to her house in Concord, Tyne and Wear.

Her neighbour, Rachel O' Connor, pressed a button on the machine every time she was disburbed by noise from next door.

She told the court "I heard sounds of a sexual nature. There were really loud, and there was a lot of moaning and groaning and screaming as if in pain. It wasn't just the woman, it came from both parties."

O'Connor said when she first moved into the flat, in November 2007, the noise started at midnight and lasted until 3.00 am. Now, the noise started about 6.30 am and lasted unitl 9.00 am.

Environmental Health officer Pamela Spart told the court she had listened to 23 recordings of the couple having sex. She said "There was an excessive screaming female voice on the recordings."

Caroline told the court that she was not "making the noise on purpose. I can't understand why people ask me to be quiet. It's normal to me."

But chairman of the magistrates, Alan Griffins, said, "You were ordered to refrain from screaming and shouting at such levels when engaging in sexual activity with your husband. You could have made efforts to minimise your vocalisation while having sex. You have not shown due respect for other human beings."

How on earth can people be so inconsiderate. At least, try to do something to cover such personal indiscretion. I just wonder, why can't the couple do something about sound-proofing the apartment. In this world, it is just what we see, people without due regard. consideration and respect for others. It serves the couple right to be fined by the Court.

Just fancy that.

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Ivan

The Frog Story

Lessons from the Frog Story

In my dealings with people, I have come across different types of people, each reacting differently to stress and problems. At the extreme, there are those who are very cool to taking on the problems and issues head-on but understanding and working on the solutin with a cool head as against another who will complained and jump, screaming the very moment upon hearing a problem, and refusing to listen.

Such people have no patience to sit down to discuss and listen to find out and understand the issue properly before acting on it. In the course, a lot of energies are wasted and causing a lot of unnecessary tension along the way. A seemingly minor issues can be blown out of proportion, inflicting stress, anxiety and frustration to all concerned. Let the following story be a good learning lesson to us..

Here goes the story

A farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could use a million frog legs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog legs! The farmer replied, “There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs – millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!”. So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.

The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, “well…where are all the frogs?”
The farmer said, “I was mistaken..There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!”

(Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it is probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also, remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you’ll wonder what all the fuss was about.)

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Husband Wife

Nagging Wife : For Sale

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Just a couple of days ago, the local newspaper reported that a man, frustrated with his wife constant nagging, has put her up for sale.

Apparently, this took place in England when a British man fed up with his wife's complaints, had put up an advertisement along with some of his fishing tackle, for sale .

The tagline was "Nagging Wife. No Tax, No MOT. Very high maintenance -- some rust," as put up by the frustrated husband Gary Bates, 38, in a small ad in Trade-It, more usually used to buy and sell cars or household goods.

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It was reported that Bates, a self-employed builder from Gloucestershire, southwest England, snapped after his wife Donna on got on his nerves while she was watching television and decided to place the ad as a joke.

"She was nagging me for doing something small, while she was watching some rubbish on TV. So I just thought I'd put an ad in to get rid of her.

"I didn't think anyone would ring up but I've had at least nine or 10 people calling about her. It's gone mad. There was no one I knew -- just people asking, 'Is she still available?'

The couple only married last year, and Bates said his 40-year-old wife .
But he said: "She's seen the funny side of it now though!"

Click below for the detailed press article.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ukpress/article/ALeqM5hKbieGOfjRCmApOjqzSdNh216HAg

Imagine what frustration can drives a person to do all sorts of things. But at least, we see one funny side of frustration.

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Ivanh

For Sale: one life in China

Ever wonder what one can do to make things better when you are down and out.

Well, the economy is no better in your country than mine. The world economy is going down in doldrums. All over, the government is scrambling to restore public confident, in employment, business. For once, the world seems to come to terms that they must act in concert, to keep the world economic system viable and intact.

Back home, many people are losing jobs, business failed, and the outlook is only gloom. What can one do?

Well, in China at least one girl has found an igenious way, having failed in her business. She has given up her life, to be run by others, at least to the netizens.

So, feeling frustrated with life not happening to what she hoped for, she has decided to give up her life to be determined by others. She is Chen Xiao, a pretty girl from China, now open to do the bidding of the netizens, albeit at a small fee to keep her going. What a way?


So read on the full story by clicking below.
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/02/25/china.lifeonline/


So what do we say about frustration. Or so people say that Neccessity is the mother of invention. So it seemed Frustration can bear fruit to good and igenious idea. Let's pray and hope that this little girl Chen Xiao in Beijing will do well in her new quest and find what she hoped for in Life.

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Ivan

Wife Beheaded, bizarre murder in US

It makes one wonder, the type and manner of crime committed nowadays. When I read this morning paper, there was this news about a TV executive being charge for murder of his wife. Murder is common news today, and practically, everday, there are reports of many murder cases.

What caught my attention for this murder is that the husband beheaded his wife. What kind of person would have done this and how on earth could one carry out such act. This is yet another form of frustration, anger and driven to extreme in the spur of moment.

The couple is reportedly very well off and owns a US television network. The couple was reportedly muslim and the wife had just recently filed for divorce. The slaying gave rise to speculation that it was the sort of "honour killing" more common in some countries, including the couple's native Pakistan. Both husband and wife are age 44 and 37 respectively and police is still investigating. Apparently, the husband was detained as suspect for his wife death in the offices of the television network owned by the couple on 12 Feb when he went to inform the police that his wife had died.

For more on news report, you can click to view the following



The bizarre murder has shocked the employees of his organisation. And it now makes one wonder how a normal, well off person could turn so violent. As reported, a statement from NOW said that "This was apparently, a terroristic version of 'honour killing'.

In society, this is how one gauge and judge others, base on our own standard. We do not know what and how others are raised, taught and ingrained with their own value system. One just cannot sit in the comfort of his own home, society raised and bred with the value system of his environment, and then try to impose it to other people, societies, cultures thousands of miles away, and similarly judged them using their very own standard. We may just have to learn to accept the differences in value and ideology. We may share our own feelings, but at the end but have no choice but let nature takes its natural course.

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Ivan

A Woman missed her flight at HKIA - frustration at its worst

Yesterday, I came across a small clip reading the local newspaper. I thought nothing much of it, thinking that it is just one of those incident. Never did I realise that someone happened to have recorded it and posted it onto Youtube.

Apparently, a couple has missed their flight at the HongKong Internatinal Airport. However, what happened to the woman upon learning that she has missed her flight, she appeared to have lost her cool and started yelling, wailing and shouting.

See for yourself what happened by clicking the following



It goes to show how people can react when they feel frustrated and angry. At the split moment in time, one can lose control of his mind if one is not able to handle the situation. I am sure when she settled down and started looking back at the video clip, she would agree how silly she had reacted, and perhaps wonder how and why she did that. So it is our mind, our thinking at each moment in time that is important.

When we are down and out, or when we are extremely angry, we must tell ourselves to cool down, stop whatever we are doing to think things over before we react to the situation. One example of a practice that I always do is that when I am extremely angry upon receiving an email, and feel the urge to respond back immediately, I would always addressed my response back to myself first. And whenever I read this response back at a later time after thinking things over, I find that I have to make changes to the response to mellow down the tone before really sending it off. I guess it is one good practice to avoid regret over saying words that we can never take back later.

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Ivan

Getting the right Gift for your loved ones - Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine Day. I am sure people all over the world will celebrate with their loved ones. It is a happy occasion, sharing quiet moment with your loved ones.

Is it always true that it is a happy occasions? To many, this could be a nightmare. What is it that one should get for the loved ones for Valentine gift? Many will feel frustrated, not knowing what to get as gift. Is the gift going to make your loved ones happy? Or will the occasions turn into a nightmare, if the loved ones have different expectations, expecting to get a certain gift which is not forthcoming.

To celebrate Valentine Day, most people try their best to charm their loved ones with gifts such as chocolates, flowers, toys, candle-light dinners and through many other exotic ways. Yet to many, it will just be like any other day. There are many ways to show one's love to the other party. Yet many are willing to splurge to impress his loved ones. Jewelry and Daimond are girls best friend, and on this day, there are many promotions as part of V-Day promotion.

This morning, driving to work, I heard over the radio, where there was this listeners call-in and survey about what gift one should get. This of course depends on the recipient. If there is a high expectation, it is likely for the recipient to feel frustrated for not receiving something not up to expectation. Similary, if one knows that there is such expectation, he will feel frustrated for fear of not getting the right gift.

Furthermore, why is it that on such a day, it is always expected of the guy to spend more money on the girl, buy expensive gift and spend on expensive candle-light dinner.

It was reported that people spent billions to buy gift for the occasion. One person in particular, mentioned about his loved one having the expectation that the gift she received must be better each year, better than the previous year. What then consitute better? is it in terms of quality, price, or value of the gift?

I am sure that on this very day, much as one looks forward to the celebration, there are many who feel real frustrated. If you are in this shoe, I feel sorry for you. It is meant to be a happy day, a happy occasion. So go out there and do what is best. And let it like the song lyrics that say What will be, will be
Happy Valentine Day.

The Art of Happiness – Be Happy at Work

Working today is different from the time when I first stepped out to work. At that time, families are generally poor and one has to stick on to his job to ensure that there is income to help out the family, or at least not to add further burden to the family. Today, the working youngsters are a different breed. They tend to come from good , well to do family, at least economically. At the slightest unhappiness or stress, they will throw in the towel and leave for greener pasture.

That leaves the most people in working position, and especially so those in management a difficult and stressful environment, having to plan, organize, monitor progress to ensure the work done. Gone are the days when the superiors can exercise greater discretion in the reprimand of the subordinates.

I was recently reading an article in the Star paper on The Art of Happiness – learn the seven secrets of living a stress-free lifestyle by Shelly Sykes, a Happiness Guru.

In it, she share the 7 keys to happiness which all employees find relevant.

1) Love Your Job
2) Stay Optimistic
3) Be Honest
4) Soak in Positivity
5) Chase your Dreams
6) Expand A yourself
7) Have Fun

She wrote that key to happiness is about staying empowered, staying motivated in the profession and not get burnt out even when under pressure. I personally wonder how these have really changed. In it, she also illustrated a Happiness at Work Model. And the area where the 3 Circle intersects, represents work-life-sustainability, and determines how successful one will be in his career and life


That essentiality sums up the importance of compatibility of job to the individual. The premise is that the more attractive the job/environment to the individual needs/interest, one would be more happy and stay longer. What about those who have a prolong need for income. After all, it is well known that people who have a overriding and high need for a job and source of income, have lasted prolong period of service, despite being unhappy. Perhaps, under such circumstances, one has learned to accept the situation and the unfavorable environment.

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Ivan

Frustrated with the World, The Gaza War goes on-Take your side

What is wrong with this World and this Humanity? Desptie the great achievement and advancement of mankind, humanity has taken many steps backward. Let's pause and take a look at this Gaza War, and the many lives that have been lost in it.

The 2 sides wanted war, many has joined in the fray for whatever motives they know best. But the World at large, wants peace and this is threatening world peace.

The Gaza War has now entered into its 22nd day. So far, asthe SUN newspaper headlines goes today, " Hamas to silence guns for a week after Israel declares Truce." It is reported that the Hamas militant announced a 1 week ceasefire. Unless there is some concrete break through in negotiation, what will happen then? A resumption of the War that nobody wants to take place.

Why would the people want to go to war? Many are taking sides, with both sides laying claims to many things, and both sides have many to tell. At the end, who is right and who is wrong? What about taking another sidethat totally abhor wars and killings, a side that wants this to stop immediately.

Does this matter afterall, if every party wants peace and the every people affected here are the ones that should decide. Not all others who are just bystanders who are mere instigators who have all the ulterior motives that one can question. Where is the transparency in this? Has United Nations gone so weak as to be unable to do anything as this drags on further? Why can't they settle amicably?

To the young, they must be wandering why are there still wars at this age. And worst still, such hatreds are being ingrained into the minds of so many youngsters. Just hardly a short distance away, people can live in peace and in harmony. Why can't they enjoy the peacefuleness as in toher. The world has failed these people.

Concurrent with this event, we just saw United States Barack Obama inauguration as the 44th President of the world biggest power. Let's hope that there will be changes that will see an end to war in the Middle East, replaced with improved and better Middle-East relations as many have harbour high hopes and expectation of Obama.

Let us pray and hope for a speedy end to this senseless war and killings especially when there are so many innocents caught in it.

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Ivan

President George Bush - Ducking from Shoes Attack

Just recently, during a News Conference in Iraq, a correspondent by the name of Al-Zaidi from a TV station, created a shocking scene when he hurled 2 shoes at US President George Bush who was speaking at the podium.

It was a very near miss, and watching the video, I must say that the President reaction was very fast and nimble. Twice the shoes were going in the same direction at him, and it was a near miss twice, when he ducked. President Bush remained composed to continue but instead talk about the shoe incident.

In President Bush words, such act is to draw attention and he likened it to people back home showing displeasure as in any political rally.

View Video Clip on President Bush ducking in slow motion


How would one describe the incident? A near violent form of displaying unhappiness, anger, frustration. I do not know of what happened to the journalist, and will he still be a correspondent after the incident.

The Middle East Region has been embroiled in controversies and wars for many years and one cannot help but sympathise with the people who live there, must be very frustrated.

Looking at the frequent suicidal killings going on every now and then, one must be wondering how much of hatred and anger has been sown in the minds of the people. I am not sure whether much can be done to the adults and this generation to make much difference for peace in the region, but I do hope and pray that more can be done at the children and educational level to foster goodwill, love and compassions, so that the future generations will be able to lead a more peaceful and happier lives than is now.

But wherever we are right now, let us not underestimate the power of one, and let us begin with ourself, and work for peace within our own home, and from this hopefully, peace will manifest itself into our environment, our society, country and eventually the world at large.

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Ivan

World Wide Weakening Economy causes diminshing wealth of everyone

The world's economy is now taking center stage in every government's agenda, and top on most people in managing the economy of their respective countries. The future looks bleak while everyone is praying for a quick recovery if at all they cannot be cushioned.

Over the last few months, I am sure we find the wealth that we have worked so hard over the last 20 - 30 years being eroded. At times of unstable environment, whatever instruments and hedging mechanism available out there is not helping either. In my case, I have learned that when the environment is unstable, the hedging mechanism may not work in favor. Take the case of exchange rate hedging, while we can buy and hedge the currency that we need for future, it can work the reverse when you are overbook into the position. In my case, I had bought into the Sterling Pound at the rate around MYR 6.49 to 1.0 Sterling Pound and looking back, now that the sterling pound has weaken to around MYR 5.50 to 1 Sterling Pound, it had actually resulted in me losing out about MYR 50,000 to hedge the initial fund required for my son's education in London.

Likewise, the Australian dollars has also weaken from about MYR 3.1 to 1.0 AUD to now about MYR2.3 to 1.0 AUD, it has also caused me to lose about MYR10,000.00 While frustrated on one hand, yet I find it hard to complain for over the longer term, it would be better for the MYR to strengthen as this will be beneficial for future exchanges. This of course is true only if the existing rate can sustain for some time.

While recession appears imminent all round, yet the cost of living has gone up. When the oil price was about USD 150 per barrel, it created chaos wordwide, with many suppliers raising prices of essential goods that drives up cost of living. Now that oil prices has dropped to around USD50 per barrel, and hardly 4 months ago only, no one would have imagined this to happen. Now that oil prices have gone by more than 50%, yet the suppliers are taking their time, if at all willing to reduce the prices. While suppliers are quick to raise prices, but they are very slow to react when it worked against them.

And what are the Authority and Government doing about this. Let's hope the people of authority are doing enough to bring about some action to address such injustice and restore equity to the people on the ground.

And let us all pray that the world economy will recover quick enough to bring relief to all the countries on this globe and that world economy stability returns.

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Ivan