Bad Days at Work
We all have bad days, whether at home or at work. If we think about it, we spend almost all the time (or at least critical time) at work, and so how we manage ourselves is important.
Coping with all the stress and pressure from work is tough, which is why periodical breaks and holidays aware from office is essential for the person to recharge and re-energise. Modern days office expectations and demands are unlike the past, akin to a battle field at worst, with seemingly good colleagues scheming against other.
That probably accounts for many cases that we read about in the News about people just losing sanity and control, many cases resulting in unwarranted destruction of properties and innocent lives. The more recent highlighted case being the Fort Hood massacre where a US Major Nidal
Malik Hasan went on a shooting spree that killed 13 people at an army base. Worst still, the shooter is himself an army psychiatrist and now remains to be seen whether there is more to this.
At this same time, Jason Rodriguez went on a shooting spree that killed one and wounded five at the firm that fired him for not having money.
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I recently received recently a video clip from an Ex - colleague. It's like a silent movie of the Charlie Chaplin day, but I do hope you watch this, and not let it happens to you. It's title Bad Day At Work.. (BaddayatWork).
I can imagine how the stress must have built up over time, waiting for it to explode. If you look at the video clip, it must be something that the supervisor that must have said that trigger the man to snap. It looks like he is uncontrollable.
Over the years of working, I am aware of the situation. It is important that we recognise that we are stress up and therefore need to be aware to avoid this happening to us. But how ? as we see above that even an army psychiatrist can succumb to the same fate.
Let's us take the first step to recognise that stress do exist and affecting us, and let us start talking about it with our close one and see how best to control and minimise it. I have just recently taken a bold step, to resign from my job of 11 years, so called early retirement. But today, I'm without the job, without the stress, but still there are a new host of other issues that is boggling my mind.
Nevertheless, I am hoping for the best, and thinking forward to be better that where I left behind.
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Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Friday, May 29, 2009
20 80 Rule Why did I get married
Frustrations, frustrations, frustrations from all angles. Feeling frustrated with your spouse.
Pareto's principle 80 20 rule, except that trying to apply it to our lives, living it out with our spouse. I can imagine your frustration. I have mine too, who hasn't got any. Is there one around that hasn't any? Come on and be honest.
Do Not look back and ask why, Look Forward and ask Why Not - seems a pretty good quote to live by. But can we?
Interesting quote from a move "Why did I get married?".
In most cases, especially n relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it is not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not. Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring, more thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: I broke my arm yesterday, hahahahaha..
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait, that's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
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That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
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But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I am not just talking about marriage. I am talking about life! about your jobs, about your friends, about your children, about your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? They have go more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they have got personal videos!
I guarantee you will be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class - because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message? If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
Conclusion : You will never get 100% perfect in Life of your needs and wants!
So if you are feeling real frustrated, rethink and reflect again, look around you and be thankful for whatever you have. Appreciate those things around you, the people and the relationship around you.
Like what we learn from small, a bird in hand is better than 2 in the bushes.
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Ivan
Pareto's principle 80 20 rule, except that trying to apply it to our lives, living it out with our spouse. I can imagine your frustration. I have mine too, who hasn't got any. Is there one around that hasn't any? Come on and be honest.
Do Not look back and ask why, Look Forward and ask Why Not - seems a pretty good quote to live by. But can we?
Interesting quote from a move "Why did I get married?".
In most cases, especially n relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it is not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not. Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring, more thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: I broke my arm yesterday, hahahahaha..
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait, that's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
WANNA YOUR EX BACK!!
Get Him to Beg you back -->Click Here!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
VALUE WHAT U HAVE
Wanna Captivate Your Man -->Click Here!
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I am not just talking about marriage. I am talking about life! about your jobs, about your friends, about your children, about your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? They have go more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they have got personal videos!
I guarantee you will be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class - because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message? If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
Conclusion : You will never get 100% perfect in Life of your needs and wants!
So if you are feeling real frustrated, rethink and reflect again, look around you and be thankful for whatever you have. Appreciate those things around you, the people and the relationship around you.
Like what we learn from small, a bird in hand is better than 2 in the bushes.
Posted by
Ivan
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Queue at cashing out at ATM
Latest ATM Procedure
Ever get into a queue, trying to cash out from your ATM and wait and wait and wait to move on, and to find out that it is the lady at the front that is slowing things down. Ever wonder why? It’s time that we learned of the women’s routine, the so-called bad habits that they unknowingly behave that cause the world around them to slow down. Maybe, I should say that it is not only the women that has this problem, to be fair, the man has it too. I am sure you would have encounter similar frustrations, having to queue and wait over someone else, taking their own sweet time, ignoring that there are others being held back. Such is the waste of time, productivity. I am sure this applies to any of us.
Take the scenario of you lining up to move up to the ATM machines to make your withdrawal and finding yourself behind some ladies. How long the queue will be, and how much of time is lost.
Well at least, this following joke and observation tells a lot of a new ATM Withdrawal Procedure comes out of a study as follows;
New ATM Withdrawal Procedure
A sign n the Bank Lobby reads, “Please note that that this bank is installing new Drive-through teller machines enabling customers to withdraw cash without leaving their vehicles. Customers using this new facility are requested to use the procedures outlined below when accessing their accounts. After months of careful research, MALE & FEMALE procedures have been developed. Please follow the appropriate signs for your gender"
MALE PROCEDURE
1. Drive up to the cash machine
2. Put down your car window
3. Insert card into machine and enter PIN
4. Enter amount of cash required and withdraw
5. Retrieve card, cash and receipt
6. Drive-off
7.
FEMALE PROCEDURE
1 Drive up to the cash machine
2 Reverse and back up the required amount to align car window
with the machine
3 Set parking brake, put the window down
4. Find handbag, remove all contents on to passenger seat to locate card.
5. Tell person on cell phone you will call them back and hang up
6. Attempt to insert card
7. Open car door to allow easier access to machine due to its
excessive distance from the car.
8. Insert Card
9. Re-insert card the right way
10. Dig through handbag to find diary with your PIN written on the
inside back page.
11 Enter PIN
12 Press cancel and re-enter correct PIN
13. Enter amount of cash required
14. Check makeup, in rear view mirror
15. Retrieve cash and receipt
16. Empty handbag again to locate wallet and place cash inside
17. Write debit amount – in check register and place receipt in
back of checkbook.
18. Re-check wakeup
19. Drive forward 2 feet
20. Reverse back to cash machine
21 Retrieve card
22. Re-empty handbag, locate cardholder, and pace card into the
slot provided
23. Give dirty look to irate male driver waiting behind you
24. Restart stalled engine and pull-off
25 Redial person on cell phone
26. Drive for 2 to 3 miles
27. Release parking brake
End of Procedure
Well, while I may agree that there are some man who does adopt the Female procedure, by and large, the majority of the ladies do fall under this category. It may amaze you that the next time round you follow behind someone queuing for an ATM or for that matter queuing up for anything else, to observe and see the number of steps that are really unnecessary, and are holding up the rest behind the line.
Posted by
Ivan
Ever get into a queue, trying to cash out from your ATM and wait and wait and wait to move on, and to find out that it is the lady at the front that is slowing things down. Ever wonder why? It’s time that we learned of the women’s routine, the so-called bad habits that they unknowingly behave that cause the world around them to slow down. Maybe, I should say that it is not only the women that has this problem, to be fair, the man has it too. I am sure you would have encounter similar frustrations, having to queue and wait over someone else, taking their own sweet time, ignoring that there are others being held back. Such is the waste of time, productivity. I am sure this applies to any of us.
Take the scenario of you lining up to move up to the ATM machines to make your withdrawal and finding yourself behind some ladies. How long the queue will be, and how much of time is lost.
Well at least, this following joke and observation tells a lot of a new ATM Withdrawal Procedure comes out of a study as follows;
New ATM Withdrawal Procedure
A sign n the Bank Lobby reads, “Please note that that this bank is installing new Drive-through teller machines enabling customers to withdraw cash without leaving their vehicles. Customers using this new facility are requested to use the procedures outlined below when accessing their accounts. After months of careful research, MALE & FEMALE procedures have been developed. Please follow the appropriate signs for your gender"
MALE PROCEDURE
1. Drive up to the cash machine
2. Put down your car window
3. Insert card into machine and enter PIN
4. Enter amount of cash required and withdraw
5. Retrieve card, cash and receipt
6. Drive-off
7.
FEMALE PROCEDURE
1 Drive up to the cash machine
2 Reverse and back up the required amount to align car window
with the machine
3 Set parking brake, put the window down
4. Find handbag, remove all contents on to passenger seat to locate card.
5. Tell person on cell phone you will call them back and hang up
6. Attempt to insert card
7. Open car door to allow easier access to machine due to its
excessive distance from the car.
8. Insert Card
9. Re-insert card the right way
10. Dig through handbag to find diary with your PIN written on the
inside back page.
11 Enter PIN
12 Press cancel and re-enter correct PIN
13. Enter amount of cash required
14. Check makeup, in rear view mirror
15. Retrieve cash and receipt
16. Empty handbag again to locate wallet and place cash inside
17. Write debit amount – in check register and place receipt in
back of checkbook.
18. Re-check wakeup
19. Drive forward 2 feet
20. Reverse back to cash machine
21 Retrieve card
22. Re-empty handbag, locate cardholder, and pace card into the
slot provided
23. Give dirty look to irate male driver waiting behind you
24. Restart stalled engine and pull-off
25 Redial person on cell phone
26. Drive for 2 to 3 miles
27. Release parking brake
End of Procedure
Well, while I may agree that there are some man who does adopt the Female procedure, by and large, the majority of the ladies do fall under this category. It may amaze you that the next time round you follow behind someone queuing for an ATM or for that matter queuing up for anything else, to observe and see the number of steps that are really unnecessary, and are holding up the rest behind the line.
Posted by
Ivan
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Sex Next Door
Losing sleep over Sex...Yes, someone is naughty next door.
Imagine, being awaken by some screaming, moaning and groaning at the odd hours of the night or morning, keeping you from sleeping and enjoying your slumber. Because of Sex Next Door, Caroline Cartwright is causing her neighbours to lose their sleep.
For some people, this maybe a welcome disturbance. But not to the neighbours of this Caroline Cartwright and her husband Steve, who have been having sleepness nights for 2 years. What a frustration that must have driven the neighbours to bring the matter to court. Just fancy their frustration over this couple lovemaking routine.
It was reported in the New Sunday Times today, that an Englishwomen was fined a total of Sterling Pound 500 by the court.
In London, reportedly a woman has been given a court order banning her from making too much noise when having sex with her husband.
Caroline Cartwright was found guilty of breaching a noise abatement notice served on her after 25 complaints to police.
The 47 year old denied the latest 5 charges but was found guilty after Sunderland magistrates listened to recordings of her loud lovemaking with husband Steve.
The couple's partially deaf neighbour Margery Ball, said she had not had a decent night's sleep in 2 years because of the noise made by the couple. As well as being given a noise abatement notice, Caroline was yesterday fined Sterling Pound 200 with 300 costs. She was taken to court after Environmental Health officers placed recording equipment in the flat next door to her house in Concord, Tyne and Wear.
Her neighbour, Rachel O' Connor, pressed a button on the machine every time she was disburbed by noise from next door.
She told the court "I heard sounds of a sexual nature. There were really loud, and there was a lot of moaning and groaning and screaming as if in pain. It wasn't just the woman, it came from both parties."
O'Connor said when she first moved into the flat, in November 2007, the noise started at midnight and lasted until 3.00 am. Now, the noise started about 6.30 am and lasted unitl 9.00 am.
Environmental Health officer Pamela Spart told the court she had listened to 23 recordings of the couple having sex. She said "There was an excessive screaming female voice on the recordings."
Caroline told the court that she was not "making the noise on purpose. I can't understand why people ask me to be quiet. It's normal to me."
But chairman of the magistrates, Alan Griffins, said, "You were ordered to refrain from screaming and shouting at such levels when engaging in sexual activity with your husband. You could have made efforts to minimise your vocalisation while having sex. You have not shown due respect for other human beings."
How on earth can people be so inconsiderate. At least, try to do something to cover such personal indiscretion. I just wonder, why can't the couple do something about sound-proofing the apartment. In this world, it is just what we see, people without due regard. consideration and respect for others. It serves the couple right to be fined by the Court.
Just fancy that.
Posted by
Ivan
Imagine, being awaken by some screaming, moaning and groaning at the odd hours of the night or morning, keeping you from sleeping and enjoying your slumber. Because of Sex Next Door, Caroline Cartwright is causing her neighbours to lose their sleep.
For some people, this maybe a welcome disturbance. But not to the neighbours of this Caroline Cartwright and her husband Steve, who have been having sleepness nights for 2 years. What a frustration that must have driven the neighbours to bring the matter to court. Just fancy their frustration over this couple lovemaking routine.
It was reported in the New Sunday Times today, that an Englishwomen was fined a total of Sterling Pound 500 by the court.
In London, reportedly a woman has been given a court order banning her from making too much noise when having sex with her husband.
Caroline Cartwright was found guilty of breaching a noise abatement notice served on her after 25 complaints to police.
The 47 year old denied the latest 5 charges but was found guilty after Sunderland magistrates listened to recordings of her loud lovemaking with husband Steve.
The couple's partially deaf neighbour Margery Ball, said she had not had a decent night's sleep in 2 years because of the noise made by the couple. As well as being given a noise abatement notice, Caroline was yesterday fined Sterling Pound 200 with 300 costs. She was taken to court after Environmental Health officers placed recording equipment in the flat next door to her house in Concord, Tyne and Wear.
Her neighbour, Rachel O' Connor, pressed a button on the machine every time she was disburbed by noise from next door.
She told the court "I heard sounds of a sexual nature. There were really loud, and there was a lot of moaning and groaning and screaming as if in pain. It wasn't just the woman, it came from both parties."
O'Connor said when she first moved into the flat, in November 2007, the noise started at midnight and lasted until 3.00 am. Now, the noise started about 6.30 am and lasted unitl 9.00 am.
Environmental Health officer Pamela Spart told the court she had listened to 23 recordings of the couple having sex. She said "There was an excessive screaming female voice on the recordings."
Caroline told the court that she was not "making the noise on purpose. I can't understand why people ask me to be quiet. It's normal to me."
But chairman of the magistrates, Alan Griffins, said, "You were ordered to refrain from screaming and shouting at such levels when engaging in sexual activity with your husband. You could have made efforts to minimise your vocalisation while having sex. You have not shown due respect for other human beings."
How on earth can people be so inconsiderate. At least, try to do something to cover such personal indiscretion. I just wonder, why can't the couple do something about sound-proofing the apartment. In this world, it is just what we see, people without due regard. consideration and respect for others. It serves the couple right to be fined by the Court.
Just fancy that.
Posted by
Ivan
Monday, March 23, 2009
The Frog Story
Lessons from the Frog Story
In my dealings with people, I have come across different types of people, each reacting differently to stress and problems. At the extreme, there are those who are very cool to taking on the problems and issues head-on but understanding and working on the solutin with a cool head as against another who will complained and jump, screaming the very moment upon hearing a problem, and refusing to listen.
Such people have no patience to sit down to discuss and listen to find out and understand the issue properly before acting on it. In the course, a lot of energies are wasted and causing a lot of unnecessary tension along the way. A seemingly minor issues can be blown out of proportion, inflicting stress, anxiety and frustration to all concerned. Let the following story be a good learning lesson to us..
Here goes the story
A farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could use a million frog legs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog legs! The farmer replied, “There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs – millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!”. So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.
The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, “well…where are all the frogs?”
The farmer said, “I was mistaken..There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!”
(Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it is probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also, remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you’ll wonder what all the fuss was about.)
Posted by
Ivan
In my dealings with people, I have come across different types of people, each reacting differently to stress and problems. At the extreme, there are those who are very cool to taking on the problems and issues head-on but understanding and working on the solutin with a cool head as against another who will complained and jump, screaming the very moment upon hearing a problem, and refusing to listen.
Such people have no patience to sit down to discuss and listen to find out and understand the issue properly before acting on it. In the course, a lot of energies are wasted and causing a lot of unnecessary tension along the way. A seemingly minor issues can be blown out of proportion, inflicting stress, anxiety and frustration to all concerned. Let the following story be a good learning lesson to us..
Here goes the story
A farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could use a million frog legs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog legs! The farmer replied, “There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs – millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!”. So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.
The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, “well…where are all the frogs?”
The farmer said, “I was mistaken..There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!”
(Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it is probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also, remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you’ll wonder what all the fuss was about.)
Posted by
Ivan
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Husband Wife
Nagging Wife : For Sale
WHAT MEN CAN'T RESIST
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Just a couple of days ago, the local newspaper reported that a man, frustrated with his wife constant nagging, has put her up for sale.
Apparently, this took place in England when a British man fed up with his wife's complaints, had put up an advertisement along with some of his fishing tackle, for sale .
The tagline was "Nagging Wife. No Tax, No MOT. Very high maintenance -- some rust," as put up by the frustrated husband Gary Bates, 38, in a small ad in Trade-It, more usually used to buy and sell cars or household goods.
PLEASE HELP ME SAVE MY MARRIAGE
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It was reported that Bates, a self-employed builder from Gloucestershire, southwest England, snapped after his wife Donna on got on his nerves while she was watching television and decided to place the ad as a joke.
"She was nagging me for doing something small, while she was watching some rubbish on TV. So I just thought I'd put an ad in to get rid of her.
"I didn't think anyone would ring up but I've had at least nine or 10 people calling about her. It's gone mad. There was no one I knew -- just people asking, 'Is she still available?'
The couple only married last year, and Bates said his 40-year-old wife .
But he said: "She's seen the funny side of it now though!"
Click below for the detailed press article.
http://www.google.com/hostednews/ukpress/article/ALeqM5hKbieGOfjRCmApOjqzSdNh216HAg
Imagine what frustration can drives a person to do all sorts of things. But at least, we see one funny side of frustration.
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Ivanh
WHAT MEN CAN'T RESIST
Click Here!
Just a couple of days ago, the local newspaper reported that a man, frustrated with his wife constant nagging, has put her up for sale.
Apparently, this took place in England when a British man fed up with his wife's complaints, had put up an advertisement along with some of his fishing tackle, for sale .
The tagline was "Nagging Wife. No Tax, No MOT. Very high maintenance -- some rust," as put up by the frustrated husband Gary Bates, 38, in a small ad in Trade-It, more usually used to buy and sell cars or household goods.
PLEASE HELP ME SAVE MY MARRIAGE
For TIPS -->Click Here!
It was reported that Bates, a self-employed builder from Gloucestershire, southwest England, snapped after his wife Donna on got on his nerves while she was watching television and decided to place the ad as a joke.
"She was nagging me for doing something small, while she was watching some rubbish on TV. So I just thought I'd put an ad in to get rid of her.
"I didn't think anyone would ring up but I've had at least nine or 10 people calling about her. It's gone mad. There was no one I knew -- just people asking, 'Is she still available?'
The couple only married last year, and Bates said his 40-year-old wife .
But he said: "She's seen the funny side of it now though!"
Click below for the detailed press article.
http://www.google.com/hostednews/ukpress/article/ALeqM5hKbieGOfjRCmApOjqzSdNh216HAg
Imagine what frustration can drives a person to do all sorts of things. But at least, we see one funny side of frustration.
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Ivanh
Monday, March 9, 2009
For Sale: one life in China
Ever wonder what one can do to make things better when you are down and out.
Well, the economy is no better in your country than mine. The world economy is going down in doldrums. All over, the government is scrambling to restore public confident, in employment, business. For once, the world seems to come to terms that they must act in concert, to keep the world economic system viable and intact.
Back home, many people are losing jobs, business failed, and the outlook is only gloom. What can one do?
Well, in China at least one girl has found an igenious way, having failed in her business. She has given up her life, to be run by others, at least to the netizens.
So, feeling frustrated with life not happening to what she hoped for, she has decided to give up her life to be determined by others. She is Chen Xiao, a pretty girl from China, now open to do the bidding of the netizens, albeit at a small fee to keep her going. What a way?
So read on the full story by clicking below.
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/02/25/china.lifeonline/
So what do we say about frustration. Or so people say that Neccessity is the mother of invention. So it seemed Frustration can bear fruit to good and igenious idea. Let's pray and hope that this little girl Chen Xiao in Beijing will do well in her new quest and find what she hoped for in Life.
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Ivan
Well, the economy is no better in your country than mine. The world economy is going down in doldrums. All over, the government is scrambling to restore public confident, in employment, business. For once, the world seems to come to terms that they must act in concert, to keep the world economic system viable and intact.
Back home, many people are losing jobs, business failed, and the outlook is only gloom. What can one do?
Well, in China at least one girl has found an igenious way, having failed in her business. She has given up her life, to be run by others, at least to the netizens.
So, feeling frustrated with life not happening to what she hoped for, she has decided to give up her life to be determined by others. She is Chen Xiao, a pretty girl from China, now open to do the bidding of the netizens, albeit at a small fee to keep her going. What a way?
So read on the full story by clicking below.
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/02/25/china.lifeonline/
So what do we say about frustration. Or so people say that Neccessity is the mother of invention. So it seemed Frustration can bear fruit to good and igenious idea. Let's pray and hope that this little girl Chen Xiao in Beijing will do well in her new quest and find what she hoped for in Life.
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Ivan
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wife Beheaded, bizarre murder in US
It makes one wonder, the type and manner of crime committed nowadays. When I read this morning paper, there was this news about a TV executive being charge for murder of his wife. Murder is common news today, and practically, everday, there are reports of many murder cases.
What caught my attention for this murder is that the husband beheaded his wife. What kind of person would have done this and how on earth could one carry out such act. This is yet another form of frustration, anger and driven to extreme in the spur of moment.
The couple is reportedly very well off and owns a US television network. The couple was reportedly muslim and the wife had just recently filed for divorce. The slaying gave rise to speculation that it was the sort of "honour killing" more common in some countries, including the couple's native Pakistan. Both husband and wife are age 44 and 37 respectively and police is still investigating. Apparently, the husband was detained as suspect for his wife death in the offices of the television network owned by the couple on 12 Feb when he went to inform the police that his wife had died.
For more on news report, you can click to view the following
The bizarre murder has shocked the employees of his organisation. And it now makes one wonder how a normal, well off person could turn so violent. As reported, a statement from NOW said that "This was apparently, a terroristic version of 'honour killing'.
In society, this is how one gauge and judge others, base on our own standard. We do not know what and how others are raised, taught and ingrained with their own value system. One just cannot sit in the comfort of his own home, society raised and bred with the value system of his environment, and then try to impose it to other people, societies, cultures thousands of miles away, and similarly judged them using their very own standard. We may just have to learn to accept the differences in value and ideology. We may share our own feelings, but at the end but have no choice but let nature takes its natural course.
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Ivan
What caught my attention for this murder is that the husband beheaded his wife. What kind of person would have done this and how on earth could one carry out such act. This is yet another form of frustration, anger and driven to extreme in the spur of moment.
The couple is reportedly very well off and owns a US television network. The couple was reportedly muslim and the wife had just recently filed for divorce. The slaying gave rise to speculation that it was the sort of "honour killing" more common in some countries, including the couple's native Pakistan. Both husband and wife are age 44 and 37 respectively and police is still investigating. Apparently, the husband was detained as suspect for his wife death in the offices of the television network owned by the couple on 12 Feb when he went to inform the police that his wife had died.
For more on news report, you can click to view the following
The bizarre murder has shocked the employees of his organisation. And it now makes one wonder how a normal, well off person could turn so violent. As reported, a statement from NOW said that "This was apparently, a terroristic version of 'honour killing'.
In society, this is how one gauge and judge others, base on our own standard. We do not know what and how others are raised, taught and ingrained with their own value system. One just cannot sit in the comfort of his own home, society raised and bred with the value system of his environment, and then try to impose it to other people, societies, cultures thousands of miles away, and similarly judged them using their very own standard. We may just have to learn to accept the differences in value and ideology. We may share our own feelings, but at the end but have no choice but let nature takes its natural course.
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Ivan
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
A Woman missed her flight at HKIA - frustration at its worst
Yesterday, I came across a small clip reading the local newspaper. I thought nothing much of it, thinking that it is just one of those incident. Never did I realise that someone happened to have recorded it and posted it onto Youtube.
Apparently, a couple has missed their flight at the HongKong Internatinal Airport. However, what happened to the woman upon learning that she has missed her flight, she appeared to have lost her cool and started yelling, wailing and shouting.
See for yourself what happened by clicking the following
It goes to show how people can react when they feel frustrated and angry. At the split moment in time, one can lose control of his mind if one is not able to handle the situation. I am sure when she settled down and started looking back at the video clip, she would agree how silly she had reacted, and perhaps wonder how and why she did that. So it is our mind, our thinking at each moment in time that is important.
When we are down and out, or when we are extremely angry, we must tell ourselves to cool down, stop whatever we are doing to think things over before we react to the situation. One example of a practice that I always do is that when I am extremely angry upon receiving an email, and feel the urge to respond back immediately, I would always addressed my response back to myself first. And whenever I read this response back at a later time after thinking things over, I find that I have to make changes to the response to mellow down the tone before really sending it off. I guess it is one good practice to avoid regret over saying words that we can never take back later.
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Ivan
Apparently, a couple has missed their flight at the HongKong Internatinal Airport. However, what happened to the woman upon learning that she has missed her flight, she appeared to have lost her cool and started yelling, wailing and shouting.
See for yourself what happened by clicking the following
It goes to show how people can react when they feel frustrated and angry. At the split moment in time, one can lose control of his mind if one is not able to handle the situation. I am sure when she settled down and started looking back at the video clip, she would agree how silly she had reacted, and perhaps wonder how and why she did that. So it is our mind, our thinking at each moment in time that is important.
When we are down and out, or when we are extremely angry, we must tell ourselves to cool down, stop whatever we are doing to think things over before we react to the situation. One example of a practice that I always do is that when I am extremely angry upon receiving an email, and feel the urge to respond back immediately, I would always addressed my response back to myself first. And whenever I read this response back at a later time after thinking things over, I find that I have to make changes to the response to mellow down the tone before really sending it off. I guess it is one good practice to avoid regret over saying words that we can never take back later.
Posted by
Ivan
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Getting the right Gift for your loved ones - Valentine's Day
Happy Valentine Day. I am sure people all over the world will celebrate with their loved ones. It is a happy occasion, sharing quiet moment with your loved ones.
Is it always true that it is a happy occasions? To many, this could be a nightmare. What is it that one should get for the loved ones for Valentine gift? Many will feel frustrated, not knowing what to get as gift. Is the gift going to make your loved ones happy? Or will the occasions turn into a nightmare, if the loved ones have different expectations, expecting to get a certain gift which is not forthcoming.
To celebrate Valentine Day, most people try their best to charm their loved ones with gifts such as chocolates, flowers, toys, candle-light dinners and through many other exotic ways. Yet to many, it will just be like any other day. There are many ways to show one's love to the other party. Yet many are willing to splurge to impress his loved ones. Jewelry and Daimond are girls best friend, and on this day, there are many promotions as part of V-Day promotion.
This morning, driving to work, I heard over the radio, where there was this listeners call-in and survey about what gift one should get. This of course depends on the recipient. If there is a high expectation, it is likely for the recipient to feel frustrated for not receiving something not up to expectation. Similary, if one knows that there is such expectation, he will feel frustrated for fear of not getting the right gift.
Furthermore, why is it that on such a day, it is always expected of the guy to spend more money on the girl, buy expensive gift and spend on expensive candle-light dinner.
It was reported that people spent billions to buy gift for the occasion. One person in particular, mentioned about his loved one having the expectation that the gift she received must be better each year, better than the previous year. What then consitute better? is it in terms of quality, price, or value of the gift?
I am sure that on this very day, much as one looks forward to the celebration, there are many who feel real frustrated. If you are in this shoe, I feel sorry for you. It is meant to be a happy day, a happy occasion. So go out there and do what is best. And let it like the song lyrics that say What will be, will be
Happy Valentine Day.
Is it always true that it is a happy occasions? To many, this could be a nightmare. What is it that one should get for the loved ones for Valentine gift? Many will feel frustrated, not knowing what to get as gift. Is the gift going to make your loved ones happy? Or will the occasions turn into a nightmare, if the loved ones have different expectations, expecting to get a certain gift which is not forthcoming.
To celebrate Valentine Day, most people try their best to charm their loved ones with gifts such as chocolates, flowers, toys, candle-light dinners and through many other exotic ways. Yet to many, it will just be like any other day. There are many ways to show one's love to the other party. Yet many are willing to splurge to impress his loved ones. Jewelry and Daimond are girls best friend, and on this day, there are many promotions as part of V-Day promotion.
This morning, driving to work, I heard over the radio, where there was this listeners call-in and survey about what gift one should get. This of course depends on the recipient. If there is a high expectation, it is likely for the recipient to feel frustrated for not receiving something not up to expectation. Similary, if one knows that there is such expectation, he will feel frustrated for fear of not getting the right gift.
Furthermore, why is it that on such a day, it is always expected of the guy to spend more money on the girl, buy expensive gift and spend on expensive candle-light dinner.
It was reported that people spent billions to buy gift for the occasion. One person in particular, mentioned about his loved one having the expectation that the gift she received must be better each year, better than the previous year. What then consitute better? is it in terms of quality, price, or value of the gift?
I am sure that on this very day, much as one looks forward to the celebration, there are many who feel real frustrated. If you are in this shoe, I feel sorry for you. It is meant to be a happy day, a happy occasion. So go out there and do what is best. And let it like the song lyrics that say What will be, will be
Happy Valentine Day.
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
The Art of Happiness – Be Happy at Work
Working today is different from the time when I first stepped out to work. At that time, families are generally poor and one has to stick on to his job to ensure that there is income to help out the family, or at least not to add further burden to the family. Today, the working youngsters are a different breed. They tend to come from good , well to do family, at least economically. At the slightest unhappiness or stress, they will throw in the towel and leave for greener pasture.
That leaves the most people in working position, and especially so those in management a difficult and stressful environment, having to plan, organize, monitor progress to ensure the work done. Gone are the days when the superiors can exercise greater discretion in the reprimand of the subordinates.
I was recently reading an article in the Star paper on The Art of Happiness – learn the seven secrets of living a stress-free lifestyle by Shelly Sykes, a Happiness Guru.
In it, she share the 7 keys to happiness which all employees find relevant.
1) Love Your Job
2) Stay Optimistic
3) Be Honest
4) Soak in Positivity
5) Chase your Dreams
6) Expand A yourself
7) Have Fun
She wrote that key to happiness is about staying empowered, staying motivated in the profession and not get burnt out even when under pressure. I personally wonder how these have really changed. In it, she also illustrated a Happiness at Work Model. And the area where the 3 Circle intersects, represents work-life-sustainability, and determines how successful one will be in his career and life
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That essentiality sums up the importance of compatibility of job to the individual. The premise is that the more attractive the job/environment to the individual needs/interest, one would be more happy and stay longer. What about those who have a prolong need for income. After all, it is well known that people who have a overriding and high need for a job and source of income, have lasted prolong period of service, despite being unhappy. Perhaps, under such circumstances, one has learned to accept the situation and the unfavorable environment.
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Ivan
That leaves the most people in working position, and especially so those in management a difficult and stressful environment, having to plan, organize, monitor progress to ensure the work done. Gone are the days when the superiors can exercise greater discretion in the reprimand of the subordinates.
I was recently reading an article in the Star paper on The Art of Happiness – learn the seven secrets of living a stress-free lifestyle by Shelly Sykes, a Happiness Guru.
In it, she share the 7 keys to happiness which all employees find relevant.
1) Love Your Job
2) Stay Optimistic
3) Be Honest
4) Soak in Positivity
5) Chase your Dreams
6) Expand A yourself
7) Have Fun
She wrote that key to happiness is about staying empowered, staying motivated in the profession and not get burnt out even when under pressure. I personally wonder how these have really changed. In it, she also illustrated a Happiness at Work Model. And the area where the 3 Circle intersects, represents work-life-sustainability, and determines how successful one will be in his career and life
.jpg)
That essentiality sums up the importance of compatibility of job to the individual. The premise is that the more attractive the job/environment to the individual needs/interest, one would be more happy and stay longer. What about those who have a prolong need for income. After all, it is well known that people who have a overriding and high need for a job and source of income, have lasted prolong period of service, despite being unhappy. Perhaps, under such circumstances, one has learned to accept the situation and the unfavorable environment.
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Ivan
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Frustrated with the World, The Gaza War goes on-Take your side
What is wrong with this World and this Humanity? Desptie the great achievement and advancement of mankind, humanity has taken many steps backward. Let's pause and take a look at this Gaza War, and the many lives that have been lost in it.
The 2 sides wanted war, many has joined in the fray for whatever motives they know best. But the World at large, wants peace and this is threatening world peace.
The Gaza War has now entered into its 22nd day. So far, asthe SUN newspaper headlines goes today, " Hamas to silence guns for a week after Israel declares Truce." It is reported that the Hamas militant announced a 1 week ceasefire. Unless there is some concrete break through in negotiation, what will happen then? A resumption of the War that nobody wants to take place.
Why would the people want to go to war? Many are taking sides, with both sides laying claims to many things, and both sides have many to tell. At the end, who is right and who is wrong? What about taking another sidethat totally abhor wars and killings, a side that wants this to stop immediately.
Does this matter afterall, if every party wants peace and the every people affected here are the ones that should decide. Not all others who are just bystanders who are mere instigators who have all the ulterior motives that one can question. Where is the transparency in this? Has United Nations gone so weak as to be unable to do anything as this drags on further? Why can't they settle amicably?
To the young, they must be wandering why are there still wars at this age. And worst still, such hatreds are being ingrained into the minds of so many youngsters. Just hardly a short distance away, people can live in peace and in harmony. Why can't they enjoy the peacefuleness as in toher. The world has failed these people.
Concurrent with this event, we just saw United States Barack Obama inauguration as the 44th President of the world biggest power. Let's hope that there will be changes that will see an end to war in the Middle East, replaced with improved and better Middle-East relations as many have harbour high hopes and expectation of Obama.
Let us pray and hope for a speedy end to this senseless war and killings especially when there are so many innocents caught in it.
Posted by
Ivan
The 2 sides wanted war, many has joined in the fray for whatever motives they know best. But the World at large, wants peace and this is threatening world peace.
The Gaza War has now entered into its 22nd day. So far, asthe SUN newspaper headlines goes today, " Hamas to silence guns for a week after Israel declares Truce." It is reported that the Hamas militant announced a 1 week ceasefire. Unless there is some concrete break through in negotiation, what will happen then? A resumption of the War that nobody wants to take place.
Why would the people want to go to war? Many are taking sides, with both sides laying claims to many things, and both sides have many to tell. At the end, who is right and who is wrong? What about taking another sidethat totally abhor wars and killings, a side that wants this to stop immediately.
Does this matter afterall, if every party wants peace and the every people affected here are the ones that should decide. Not all others who are just bystanders who are mere instigators who have all the ulterior motives that one can question. Where is the transparency in this? Has United Nations gone so weak as to be unable to do anything as this drags on further? Why can't they settle amicably?
To the young, they must be wandering why are there still wars at this age. And worst still, such hatreds are being ingrained into the minds of so many youngsters. Just hardly a short distance away, people can live in peace and in harmony. Why can't they enjoy the peacefuleness as in toher. The world has failed these people.
Concurrent with this event, we just saw United States Barack Obama inauguration as the 44th President of the world biggest power. Let's hope that there will be changes that will see an end to war in the Middle East, replaced with improved and better Middle-East relations as many have harbour high hopes and expectation of Obama.
Let us pray and hope for a speedy end to this senseless war and killings especially when there are so many innocents caught in it.
Posted by
Ivan
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